...And Baby Makes Three

I was expecting that this posting would be another heart-wrenching narrative in which I share the intense feelings of new fatherhood or the tender emotion of watching your young child sleep, but halfway through the writing of this post, I realized that I was in a very different space. Blame it on jet lag, poor nutrition, caffeine withdrawal, or sheer giddiness at having finally achieved this long sought-after goal, but my apologies for those anticipating drama — this is more of a sitcom, I'm afraid.

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[Note: As of Monday — the day of physical custody — I am going to start referring to the focus of this blog as "Genevieve," relegating the Russian "Syevinch" to the role of middle name. Sorry in advance for the confusion.]

Upon waking Monday morning, Renee and I looked at each other knowingly and smiled. I said something like, "This is the last morning that we will wake up childless" and she said something like, "You've got an hour — get your butt in the shower."

Okay, maybe not, but there was some degree of recognition that today was the day that our lives would change. The rushing tends to happen regardless.

Vlad was scheduled to pick us up at 10:00 to drive us across town (why is it that all of our drives seem to be "across town" and yet we've seen so little of the city?) to apply for an expedited Russian passport for Genevieve. ("Expedited," in this case, meant greasing the palms of some Russian bureaucrats with a little U.S. greenery — but at this point, whatever it takes to get us through the last five days and homeward bound is worth the price.) This first errand was to be followed by a visit to the supermarket for Vlad's assistance in purchasing the toddler-friendly supplies that most closely resembled those found in the orphanage. And then off to Genevieve for our final visit at the orphanage to complete the paperwork and bring our baby home.

As we were getting ready for our big day, the phone rang at 9:20. It was Vlad calling to let us know that he had already arrived and was waiting for us in his car. That sped up our morning preparations. We threw ourselves together and met him downstairs.

The temperature had dropped again the night before, so it was a crisp –8° C (17° F) with a fine but icy snow blowing that stung our eyes as we raced to Vlad's car. I was quite appreciative of the fact that we were going to be driven around on this coldest of cold days; a walk to the orphanage in Monday's weather would have been absolutely punishing.

We drove clockwise on the ring road, admiring the tasteful Christmas decorations displayed throughout the city as we headed for the Office of Vital Statistics. Once there, we provided our passports to the uniformed clerk who jotted down our vital statistics before allowing us to head to the third floor, where we encountered a line of 10 or 12 people. Vlad took my U.S. currency and slipped into a side office. A short time later, he appeared again and called me in to join him. Assuming that my cash had bought me this pass to the head of the queue, I sat down at a desk with a very stern-looking woman who had me sign two different forms authorizing the issuance of Genevieve's passport — my first task in the role of parent/guardian. Once done, we headed out and back to the car to continue our day.

Despite the methodical layout of Moscow's city streets, the circular structure leaves us novices never really knowing where we are, other than whether we're proceeding clockwise or counterclockwise on the various ring roads and to or from the city center on the arteries. All this to say, once we left our apartment, I was totally clueless as to where we were and was surprised to find us passing the back side of the Kremlin after leaving the passport office. As we inched past in Moscow traffic, I snuck a peak between St. Basil's cathedral and the Kremlin wall to see the beginning of what apparently became a 5,000-strong youth rally in support of President Putin and his successful, albeit tainted, victory in Sunday's parliamentary elections. (See photo clipped from the Yahoo! News site — this is the view I had quite a bit earlier in the day.)

Our drive continued back up one of the main arteries from the city center. At one point, about halfway to the orphanage, we saw that an accident had tied up traffic in the opposite direction. Vlad explained to us, quite angrily, that drivers involved in accidents are required to wait at the scene for the police (militsiya) to show up and take a report. His anger came from the injustice of how the rules force hundreds of people to pay for the actions of two. Not more than three or four minutes later — seriously — Vlad slammed on his brakes to avoid a car that stopped short in front of us and we were sideswiped by a van attempting to pass us on the right. (The icy roads didn't help.) Apparently there was no damage to the van and minimal damage to Vlad's pristine Renault, so we did not wait for the militsiya and instead continued on our quest for Pampers.

We hit the supermarket (not literally, despite the van incident), where we stocked up on the Russian equivalent of Gerbers, purchasing jars of beef stroganoff and other Slavic delights, as well as pureed fruit, yogurt, juice, and cookies. We were also informed that in addition to the gifts that we had brought for the orphanage director and the numerous caregivers back in September, it was expected that we would bring gifts of tea and coffee again this trip. While it was frustrating to learn of this additional tradition in the moment, in hindsight it seems like a very favorable trade — one adorable little 16-month-old in exchange for a jar of Sanka, a box of Lipton tea, and a tin of butter cookies (although I think I'll hold off on sharing this news with Genevieve, as I don't want her to develop a false impression of self-worth).

We arrived at the orphanage just as Genevieve was finishing her lunch. Renee was escorted away to dress her in the clothes that we brought for her. (The clothes that she wore while at the orphanage are the property of "the state," so they must remain there.) I was taken another direction to sign the orphanage's papers to accept physical custody. While signing for this adorable package, I learned that Genevieve had been christened shortly after arriving at the orphange in September 2006. Because "Syevinch" is a Muslim name, she was christened as "Svetlana" ("Svyeta" for short), although I think only the most devout of orthodox caregivers in the facility referred to her by this new name; everyone else seemed okay with her non-Christian heritage and unique name.

As I made my way back to where Renee was preparing Genevieve, I saw a gathering of green frocks as the caregivers sought one final goodbye with their little girl. As I projected in Sunday's blog, it was very touching to see how affected they all were and how clearly sad they were at this farewell. We intend to send regular updates to the orphanage workers to ensure that they can witness Genevieve's development over the years. (The photo at right shows three of Genevieve's caregivers with one of the facility's doctors.)

Genevieve apparently was less than thrilled to be bundled up for our drive home. (Actually, the bundling was for the very brief walk from the orphanage to the car and from the car to the apartment, but with temperatures this extreme that level of protection is mandatory.) But once we got outside, she was mostly okay — occasional sobs with slight chance of bawling, clearing later in the day.

An hour later, Vlad dropped us off at our aparment building informing us that the week's schedule had once again changed. Rather than push the medical exam out to Wednesday, he preferred to do that on Tuesday (today), so that we could pick up Genevieve's new Russian passport on the way home and eliminate the need for two days of errands. So the plan now is for the three of us to ride with Vlad to the clinic about 20 minutes away, where we will meet Masha who will use the time to help us complete the final forms required by the U.S. Department of Homeland Security (yes ... more forms!). Once Genevieve has a complete physical (a requirement of the U.S. prior to the issuance of a visa), Vlad will drive Renee and her back to the apartment and take me on our convoluted trip back to the nice lady at the passport office to retrieve Genevieve Syevinch Sanguinetti's Russian passport.

Wednesday will be a free day for us. With the weather warming to a balmy 34° and Genevieve warming to us, we may attempt to venture out to see how she does in the big, wide world — a sort of test prior to Saturday's air-travel adventure. Thursday, then, is our visit to the U.S. embassy, another brief formality, but one that will allow us to bask in the comfort of the English language.

"Okay, okay," I hear you say. "Enough with the practicalities! How did the first day with Genevieve go?!" I'm glad you asked — I was just getting to that.

We were dropped off at the apartment after our morning's errands sometime just after 1:00. Genevieve had already had her noontime feeding and it was still an hour before her scheduled afternoon nap, so we spent the next hour showing her around our home away from home, attempting to allay any fears of this strange, new, pink place.

She did quite well and settled in to Renee's lap in the corner of the living room to play with her now-familiar toys. Given that in the orphanage she is already drinking from a teacup, she did remarkably well with the concept of a sippy cup (although she was extremely frustrated with it this morning). We tested out the concept of video as a distraction by playing one of the two "Baby Einstein" DVDs that we had brought with us. While she wasn't captivated by it, there was enough interest that this may work as a distraction on Saturday's flights.

At 2:00 — her scheduled nap time — we realized that she was not pleased with the idea of lying alone in her crib (a complete understatement!), and it took nearly two hours of encouragement and pseudo-sleeping in Renee's arms before the transplant to her crib was successful, leaving us with an hour and a half of calm before we woke her at 5:30 for her afternoon snack. Outcome: She loves pureed mango, loves banana yogurt, hates vitamin-enriched cookies.

Shortly after snack time, Renee bravely ventured forth to conquer the soiled diaper and returned victorious, despite Genevieve's anguish at being changed. We dressed her in her sleeper (you gotta love the little footsies on those sleepers!) and played with her for a bit before Renee decided that she desperately needed a bath. Feeling that there was no benefit to postponing the inevitable, we attempted this challenge together. Outcome: Genevieve does not like baths. (Actually, we've heard awful reports of how kids are washed en masse in the orphanage, so there's really no surprise that she shies away from the sound of running water.)

So the bath was short lived, but at least she came away smelling better — we'll have to deal with the therapy costs arising from our "water torture" later in life. Another hour or two of playtime before dinner, where we discovered that if we want her to eat her chicken stew, you don't start by feeding her the much-preferred yogurt. Needless to say, every meal is supplemented with the ever-present Cheerios. (By the way, we never made it to the weekend brunch at the Marriott, but we were able to find the Russian equivalent of Cheerios at the local market and have restocked our supplies.)

After dinner, another few minutes of play time, drumming along to "I Am a Pizza" (thanks a lot, Steve!) and some kid-friendly Mozart before attempting a return to the crib. Fortunately, Renee had learned the trick earlier in the day and got the process down from the initial two hours to about 40 minutes (a relative success captured in the beautiful photo here).

So day two has begun. Being the closet statistician that I am, I calculated that we are approximately 0.007% into our projected lifetime with Genevieve. It's nice to know that we've got another 14,000 days (give or take) to figure out how to make the process work.

Thanks to all of you who responded with your assurances that this is a "learn as you go" experience. It helps to know that we're not alone in our ignorance.

More stories and photos to follow on the last few days of our Russian experience.

With love,
Larry & Renee